I had one of those moments yesterday when I broke the rules!
The rule in question is the one about not offering help unless you are invited!

It’s a very hard thing to do and it takes great discipline… To wait to be asked.
Especially if you feel love and concern for your fellow travelers on the journey of life.

Yesterday I blew it!

I walked up to a woman who was in serious emotional pain…
Her forehead was creased and scrunched as she said to me, “I don’t know what you are talking about… I am not angry or hurt…. Just a little sad! ”

She was furious with God… it was so obvious… if it had been a dog it would have bit me!
I quickly apologized for my mistake and agreed with her world view…
Stepping away quickly…
I was ashamed!

Have I learned nothing?
Am I so ignorant and foolish still? Apparently so!

She had good reason to be suffering.
She and her family are Christian Missionaries. I met them at a church meeting in Chiang Mai Thailand. Her husband had been kidnapped by Moslems in Pakistan.

He had been released only a week earlier….
Her husbands kidneys were exhausted and it showed in the dark rings under his eyes.
He was warm and obviously good at his job.

He was willing and interested when I suggested his adrenal system was exhausted and he needed support for his kidney function before he went out to fight that good fight one more time!

He was happy for the info… but his wife lives on that river in Egypt…De. Nile…

And I did not handle my own energy with enough reserve to be of genuine support to her.

I needed to ask her first if she would like my help and humbly accept her answer….

My heart goes out to everyone in dark emotional places because I have been there myself so often…

There is always light and dark….
Our job as genuine light workers is to respect the balance and be of true service to others from a place of genuine compassion and non judgment…

Blazing tales of wonder….. Still learning how to use my energy wisely….
To be continued…
S xx

The world is in chaos…

Lately I have been contemplating the entirely human quality known as ’sympathy.’

No other creature on earth has the evolutionary development to express such a frequency of being.

Sympathy… is it good or bad to be sympathetic?

Something to consider…
There are a couple of related qualities: ‘sympathy‘ and ‘empathy’. To have ‘empathy’… to be empathetic is to feel as if you have ‘walked a mile in someone’s shoes’ … you are acknowledging the feelings or experiences of another.
Whereas ’sympathy’ has an inbuilt quality of superiority attached to the action of giving ’sympathy’ or being sympathetic. You do not speak about sharing sympathy… one gives while the other receives… indicating an inherent lack of equality in the exchange.

I have met many people who play ‘the sympathy card’ to get by in life. (Make no mistake… it’s a manipulation). There are some who play it brilliantly. Not like a violin but rather, like a full orchestra… with breathtaking skill and some others can use it with the power of a sociopath.

For those of you who don’t know exactly what a ’sociopath’ is, it’s someone who feels none of the normal rules of human interaction apply to them (because they feel that their story is the most miserable of all and no one will ever understand their pain etc… and so on…). In their version of reality, there is the underlying beliefe that everyone has had it better than them so the “general public” is fair game…everyone can be used for their own ends with no sense of responsibility, gratitude or appreciation…or reciprocation.

In fact at the end, when it has become obvious this is a ‘dependent’, manipulative person rather than a responsible, talented ‘individual’ looking for a break …(they usually have a well refined/rehearsed attitude of pathetic-ness with that ‘deep unrecognized potential’…you feel sure you can help them reveal to the world!) Continue reading ‘Sympathy… is it good or bad?’ »