Archive for November 2005
Without trust as the basis of your relationship, (with anything or anyone) there is no potential for true intimacy.
Why…because intimacy describes a ‘closeness’ only available within a trusting relationship. I am not talking necessarily about sexual intimacy, which is specific to a certain type of relationship. Rather, I am talking about true intimacy between people within a family or even a community. Continue reading ‘Intimacy’ »
Trust…is the opposite of fear…
The most powerful antidote to the disease of fear in our new millennium…is trust:
What does trust mean?
Trust is a derivation of ‘true’, which means ‘straight to the mark’, as opposed to ‘sin’, which means to ‘miss the mark’ (both terms are coined from the ancient martial art of archery). Arrows were always described as flying ‘true’ or ‘sinning’…by missing the mark. The terms were pre-New Testament and were used to describe these high concepts to the reader so they could understand the message the Master Teacher, Jesus, wanted to share with the world.
‘Trustworthy’ describes something you can rely on.
True means in alignment with the straight path…no secrets, no manipulation, simply the ‘truth’…… something or someone you can ‘trust.’
Within the human condition, we manipulate the truth until we personally begin to trust no one and nothing because we see ourselves reflected in the world around us. We experience what is ‘true’ as rather malleable. It can be molded into a form that suits our desired result….and makes us right! And then we suffer, which makes us more right and fearful, resentful and angry.
To learn to trust yourself first is the key.
Stop your self delusion…the part of you that feels useless…the part of you that you can’t trust. It leaves you feeling poor and powerless. There is no poorer man than the one who cannot trust himself to be on his own true team.
You must listen carefully to the agreements you make with yourself and others on a daily basis. Then be sure you are true to your word. This is the first act of a true Warrior of The Light!
Trust is the product of being ‘true’ and flying ‘straight’.
Anything that is not ‘true’ does not really support you and your ‘true purpose’. As you become more true to yourself, everything that is false falls away…sometimes with a little pain…leaving you free to build a new reality based on trust and truth…something truly trustworthy. Continue reading ‘Trust’ »
Jealousy…
…is the present time fear…of a future time loss.
Jealousy is fear of loss….and fear is the poison of the mind. It immobilizes you, leaving you powerless to respond to your life with certainty, which feeds your natural feelings of abandonment.
So, if you find yourself experiencing feelings of jealousy, what do you know for sure? Continue reading ‘Jelousy’ »
Planting…love?
I have been planting all over the property in Ocean View.
It is a very difficult environment. There is no earth so we have to make our own by hand: organic chicken manure with crushed black cinder and macadamia nut husks. There is no water so we have to pay for it and have it hauled in. There are regular gale force winds pounding anything living to death or at the very least working on dehydrating the little moisture left in the earth after days of beating midday sun. Continue reading ‘Planting’ »
The reason I know so much about this subject is because I had a very profound experience in India a number of years ago.
Dewa, my husband, my son Ahkasha and I went to India to see the Delai Lama up in Daram Masala in the North at the base of The Himalayas. On first arrival, despite the fact that I had been living in third world conditions in Bali for many years, I was overwhelmed by the beggars and the deep poverty. I have a big heart but I found myself closing down with the immensity of the problem before my eyes. Continue reading ‘Charity, Part II’ »
Charity is for the giver not the receiver!
I know you may think this is a perverse statement but it is the truth. What happens when you give to another in need? Is their true need resolved through your gift? Is their life any different? Have you saved the planet or the whales? No!
There may be a moment of respite or an unusual treat. Perhaps the rent gets paid this month or they can feed their family a few more days…. but what happens to the giver? Continue reading ‘Charity, Part I’ »
Responsibility….what does it mean?
Obviously, it means our ‘ability to respond,’ but what qualifies that ability? What is it, above all else that increases our ability to respond to what is occurring in our life?
The quality of our ability to ‘respond’ is determined by our ability to be in present time and to focus. Being in present time has an enormous number of advantages. Primarily, it’s our point of power that allows growth for change along our journey. Continue reading ‘Responsibility’ »
Wealth – Worth…
Do you know there is a powerful misconception about wealth and worth?
To know what someone is worth is to know what they think of themselves…and this has nothing to do with money! The difference between worth and money is that worth measures value and money measures energy.
In fact the most powerful misconception of our whole human condition is that there is not enough money o feed the poor r get you what you want r change the nature of the inner city ghettoes of the world …right? Wrong!
The fact is it’s not that there’s not enough money, it’s that there’s not enough love in the world….that’s what creates poverty. Why… because your sense of self worth is based upon how much you felt loved and valued by your world as you were growing up. Many citizens of the world do not come from loving families, thus their sense of worth has to be established in their adulthood by their own choices. Continue reading ‘Worth’ »
Do you find yourself struggling with all sorts of things in life?
Over the years, I’ve learned that struggle never leads to where I really want to go, which is joy.
You must admit, every time you struggle you get even more wound up…..isn’t that so? Think about all the times you have struggled through a project or a plan. Did you ever really succeed? Or, was whatever success you achieved tainted by the manner in which you achieved it (i.e., through struggle rather than joy….force rather than fun)? Continue reading ‘Struggle’ »
Dependence…Co-dependence…Inter-dependence…
What do these words mean and how do they apply to relationship?
Well, you probably all have a fairly clear idea of what dependence means…no freedom of choice!
As a small child you are a dependent. As an adult, if you have the mentality of a child and have never matured, you will look for others to depend upon. When you are a dependent, you have no freedom of choice.
Co-dependence is a little different. Continue reading ‘Relationships, Part I’ »
Shankari the Alchemist